
By Mary Ungrangsee
Twins
Emma and Brendan, along with their older sister Caitlyn,
have been making lots of drawings in their new home at the
Ronald McDonald House in Los Angeles, California. The children
moved there from Phoenix with their mother when their two
newborn twin brothers, Nick and Nate, were moved to the
UCLA Mattel Children’s Hospital 20 miles away. The kids
are making the drawings in the hopes that their brothers
will be coming home sometime soon.
The
twins, Nicholas and Nathaniel Draper, were exceptional little
boys even before they were born. As the second set of twins
in the family (after fraternal twins Emma and Brandon) Nick
and Nate were a highly anticipated addition to the Draper
family. When mother Nicole was seven and one-half months
along with the pregnancy, doctors discovered that both boys
suffer from dilated cardiomyopathy, an extremely rare heart
condition that prevents the heart muscles from effectively
pumping enough blood to keep the heart healthy.
In
short, both boys need new hearts.
"It
is unusual for cardiomyopathy to develop in a fetus, and
incredibly rare to see it in twins," said Dr. Mark
Plunkett, associate professor of cardiothoracic surgery
and director of the UCLA Pediatric Heart Transplant program.
Dilated
cardiomyopathy is a condition that can result from many
different causes, including genetic factors and viral infections,
although doctors aren’t sure yet the exact cause in Nick
and Nate’s case. In dilated cardiomyopathy, the heart is
stretched out or enlarged and weak, and as a result pumps
blood less efficiently. This makes the heart more prone
to blood clots and frequently results in heart failure.
The condition is frequently misdiagnosed or even undetected.
Heart transplant is considered one of the best ways to
treat the condition, especially in young and otherwise healthy
patients, according to the website of the American Heart
Association.
Making the Donor List
Born
on July 11, Nick and Nate were separately transferred on
July 13 and 14 from their hospital in Phoenix to the UCLA Mattel Children’s Hospital, where Nick
was immediately placed on the waiting list for a donor infant
heart.
His
brother Nate wasn’t able to join him on the waiting list
until some time later. Nate was suffering from bleeding
on the brain, a serious complication that forced doctors
to wait and see if the infant would be strong enough to
undergo the transplant surgery. By August 4, he had improved
enough to join Nick on the waiting list.
The
twins will receive new hearts in the order they were put
on the waiting list. Doctors say they don’t know how many
infants are ahead of the boys on the list, but they don’t
think that could be many at such a young age.
And
so the waiting continues for Nick and Nate.
Finding
a single infant donor is a challenge in itself, but finding
two makes the challenge even greater.
"Infants
are less likely than older children to be in a fatal accident
— they are protected by car seats, they're watched more
closely at a younger age, they're not able to run around
like older children — they're just in a more safe environment
and less likely to suffer from traumatic brain death,"
said Caron Burch, UCLA pediatric heart-transplant coordinator.
"Parents of newborns are just not thinking about organ
donation. However, by educating people about it, we hope
they would at least be familiar with the subject should
they ever be faced with the death of a loved one."
The
twins' parents, Michael and Nicole Draper, hope that by
sharing their story they will help make the public aware
of the need for organ donors. Currently, there are more
than 89,000 Americans awaiting an organ donation, including
more than 3,100 Americans who are awaiting a new heart.
Michael
and Nicole had always thought that they would be willing
organ donors should a tragedy ever arise, but they never
expected the issue of organ donation to hit so close to
home. “We had thought of it, but it is like anything else — you never
think it will happen to you. Our interest and awareness
rose exponentially as we were thrust into a life-or-death
situation with two of our children, especially at the beginning
when they were even more critically ill,” says Nicole.
Fighting the Daily Fight
Nicole
and the older children moved to the Ronald McDonald House
in Los Angeles when the twins were moved to UCLA. Dad Michael
works during the week in the Admissions Department of the
University of Phoenix, and comes to join them in LA on the
weekends. Caitlyn has now enrolled in first grade in Los Angeles in order to stay with the family.
It
has been an incredibly stressful time for the family, but
they have been encouraged by the positive steps the twins
have been taking. Nick and Nate were able to be taken off
ventilators and intravenous feeding tubes and now are able
to bottle feed. Doctors have been able to start weaning
them off some of their IV medications.
In
an exciting development, the twins were moved out of the
neonatal intensive care unit and into a regular room in
the hospital’s pediatric wing. “This is a positive step for Nick and Nate,” said
Dr. Juan Alejos, medical director of the pediatric heart
transplant program at UCLA’s Mattel Children’s Hospital.
“They are developing well and continue to gain weight —
currently both weigh more than 9 pounds.”
Alejos
added that the twins’ sharing a room on the pediatric floor
will provide an environment that will help nurture the twins’
development during the unknown length of time that they
must wait for a donor hearts. Transplants are still a necessity
for both boys, although their heart function has improved
somewhat.
Nicole
and Michael attribute the twins’ progress to the prayers
and faith of their family and countless friends who have
come to their aid in this difficult time. Nicole’s sister
Ami Loosli postponed starting college to come and help in
Los Angeles. Friends have brought groceries and offered child
care services. One friend has been on the phone with airlines
searching for discounts and frequent flier miles to ease
some of the burden of the constant travel back and forth
for Michael. A ward member spent countless hours building
and maintaining a web site (www.nickandnate.org) to help the family
raise awareness. Co-workers and neighbors have held fundraisers
and bake sales to help alleviate some of the financial stress
of the ordeal.
Michael
and Nicole say that they have learned not to be too proud
to ask for what they need. The generosity and love of those
around them has made it possible for their extraordinarily
difficult situation to be a little bit easier. The wish
list posted on their web site includes the following items:
·
Two infant hearts (or sign up
as a donor to help someone else!)
·
Housing near the UCLA Mattel Children's Hospital
(for Nick and Nate's Mom, Aunt and 3 siblings to stay nearby)
·
Airfare to/from LAX and PHX on weekends for Nick and Nate's Dad
·
Frequent flier miles to pay for airfare.
·
Mechanics labor for minor repairs to Draper family's van
·
Gas cards to help when driving family to/from Phoenix to Los Angeles.
·
Los Angeles city bus pass (to pick up Caitlin from
school)
·
Postage stamps to send thank you cards
·
Cash Donations to help pay
medical costs.
·
Send letters of hope & encouragement
·
Lots of prayers!
Keep an Eternal Perspective
Part
of what has held Michael, Nicole, and all the children together
throughout this ordeal is their eternal perspective, gained
from being members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day
Saints. Knowing that the twins will always be a part of
their family makes dealing with the uncertainty of each
day a little bit easier. Regardless of the outcome, their
family is safe when encircled in the arms of a loving Heavenly
Father and a Savior who knows intimately every heartache,
literal and figurative, that the family experiences.
The
family has truly shared this experience together. “The
other three kids absolutely love their little brothers,”
says Nicole. “They have been able to visit and hold them
and can't wait for them to come home. We can tell
that our situation has affected them, but they are good
sports and it helps that they have each other, a caring
extended family, and that they started school. The
Ronald McDonald house also has great resources for them
such as activities, toys, and other children for them to
play with.”
This
is a family on the giving and receiving ends of true and
abiding unconditional love. The outpouring of support from
their community is a mirror to the love the family feels
for their two little boys.
“We want to say thank you for all of the help, support and
prayers,” says Nicole. “We have a wonderful family,
an incredible ward and great community. People have
been so generous with their resources, time, talents, possessions
and love and we are so grateful.
“Continue
the prayers; they are working. We know that God is
in charge and He loves us, that eventually we will get through
this period of time, and that things will be O.K. in the
end.”
To
read more about Nick and Nate, or to make a donation,
please
visit their website at www.nickandnate.org.